Mentoring Month at Alliance: Women’s Health + Prevention Services

National Mentoring Month is a time to recognize the role that mentors play in the lives of their mentees. Mentors come in many forms, and at Alliance, there is a cyclical nature of mentorship, where mentees become mentors to others. 

Check out our inspiring mentor-mentee pairs from Alliance’s Women’s Health and Prevention Services Programs.

NICKY AND ERIN

Naysika (Nicky) Bravo has been an Alliance Peer for years, helping clients get to medical appointments, and secure housing, even over the pandemic. She met Dr. Erin McKinney-Prupis through Alliance’s Peer Program over five years ago. They both are part of a team that mentors and supervises the women’s program Peers and both Nicky and Erin observe to have learned so much from working with each other as they continue to support the mentorship program and each other’s growth.

“Erin is an amazing, smart, caring, humble woman and she always puts her team first, her clients first, and I would be lost without her. She goes above and beyond without question and she has taught me to be a better wife, mother, and Peer. She is always available when I am not too sure of myself and she gives me the push I need to be the best mentor for my client and I am proud to call her my supervisor and mentor.” 

We asked Erin what she enjoys about being a mentor and she told us “the most rewarding part of my job is being a mentor for Nicky Bravo. Together we discuss and strategize how to best care for her clients. Hearing the positive changes she helps her clients make and experiencing firsthand her skillset growth is incredible. She teaches me new things and helps me grow as a leader and support person every day!”

And Nicky’s star shines bright in and outside of her work with Alliance program participants. She recently shared her story of Overcoming Obstacles and Living with HIV as part of a Health Divide series on HIV by Verywell Health. 

 

GUY AND ANTHONY

Guy Williams, Director of Prevention, has been mentoring for over 17 years and has learned as much from his mentees that they have learned from him, “Mentorship is the influence, guidance, or direction given by a mentor. A mentor is someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often younger person.”

One of the biggest beneficiaries of Guy’s mentorship is Anthony Romano, who works with Guy’s Prevention Services team. “I could never imagine the amount of support that one individual could give to another person. During the lockdown, I couldn't think of having another mentor/supervisor like Guy Williams. He was always a true leader, always listening and making me feel like we are equal. Taking my ideas and putting them to fruition,” said Anthony.

The mutual respect these individuals have for each other is just another reason why mentorship is so important at Alliance. “I like to think we’ve been a home for Anthony and other people in the community, and a way for them to help other people,” said Guy.

Anthony Romano and Guy Williams.

Mentoring Month at Alliance: Peer Services

National Mentoring Month is a time to recognize the role that mentors play in the lives of their mentees. Mentors come in many forms, and at Alliance, there is a cyclical nature of mentorship, where mentees become mentors to others. 

Check out our inspiring mentor-mentee pairs from Alliance’s Peer Program!

STEPHEN, WAVERLY, and ARDITH

Stephen had been at Alliance for years when Waverly transitioned from working in Client Services to the Peer training program. “I met Mr. Williams during the transition period. At the time I was a mentor for roughly 25 Peers and realized that I needed to spend more time on the 4th Floor in the dedicated Peer area. It was important to have the Peers get to know me, place a name with the face. Non-profit work was new to me. Mr. Williams shared his lived experiences with me, validated me and my expertise with the Peers who may have been a bit apprehensive to open up, and work with me at the time since I was the new guy.”

Stephen speaks powerfully about Waverly as an exceptional Alliance mentor. “His mentorship is based on trust, confidentiality, mutual respect, accountability, and sensitivity. He is a great role model. Listening to Waverly talk about the benefits of continued education as he returned to school encouraged me to obtain my GED. Having him as a mentor has changed my life, personally and professionally.”

Stephen Williams

It is apparent that Stephen and Waverly both inhabit the roles of mentor for one another. “He supported me as I tried to introduce new ideas and practices to the existing structure in Peer Services,” Waverly said. “In exchange, I offered him an ear when he needed it, more structured and consistent supervision, and performance evaluations.”

Both Stephen and Waverly have served as mentors to countless Alliance Peers, program participants, and staff, like Ardith Cornelius, who told us, “Mr. Williams has inspired me in many ways and I cannot thank him enough. He is so inspiring, encouraging, and kind. I thank you from the depths of my heart.” 

Ardith also called Waverly a compassionate and encouraging role model and “a great source of information and support for some personal situations that I was going through.” As a Peer Worker and a member of the Peer Alumni committee, Waverly feels that “she's a very special individual. I try to make space for all of the Peers that find benefit in my support and seek it out, but with Ardith, it's deeper.”

ERIC AND MS. JOYCE 

Peer Services supports the transition of Peers to paid work across Alliance programs. And many Peers, like Eric Ramos, are hired for their exemplary work in the Peer program. He asked that we recognize Joyce Myricks as a born leader, wonderful mentor, and trustworthy friend.

 “Even with all her duties as the lead facilitator of PREP, she always has time to check in with me both professionally and personally. At the start of the pandemic and the loss of family and friends, she kept me encouraged and helped me through my grief.

 “Ms. Joyce has always provided me wise advice and diplomatic direction, especially my first cycle on the PREP team. She always goes above and beyond when it comes to encouraging many other Peers. I am lucky to have had Ms. Joyce during my time as a student in PREP Cycle 50 and also to have her as a mentor. She proves each and every day that one person truly can make a big difference.”

Eric and Joyce

Ms. Joyce ​​thinks that “the role of the Mentor at Alliance and specifically with PREP, is to be a good listener and help them map out their road to work. We all bring our behaviors from the environments we've been in. New Peers are trying to make changes in their lives and don't necessarily have strong existing support systems, so I like to establish and maintain overt lines of communication.”

A graduate of PREP herself—cycle 31, taught by none other than Stephen Williams—she could tell right away that Eric was smart and empathetic but experienced anxiety due to tremendous responsibilities he was carrying in various parts of his life. “He had a lot of self-doubt, so over the past couple of years, I tried to go through situations with him as a healthy support system, while retaining a professional relationship. Our relationship was built on my willingness to always listen to him, at times when he was emotionally overwrought. I try to prepare him for any potentially triggering situation, and help him understand how to pause, and just consider all his choices, and how he can make ones that will help him. I've tried to identify times and situations where he can take on more responsibilities in a way that I think will help him grow.”

Eric feels she has done a great job there.

Mentoring Month at Alliance: LES Harm Reduction Center

National Mentoring Month is a time to recognize the role that mentors play in the lives of their mentees. Mentors come in many forms, and at Alliance, there is a cyclical nature of mentorship, where mentees become mentors to others. 

Check out our inspiring mentor-mentee pairs from Alliance LES Harm Reduction Center!

Floyd Mitchell, Harm Reduction Assistant Manager at Alliance LES Harm Reduction Center, gained his knowledge by simply accepting the journey. He has been in this field since 1988 at the height of the AIDS epidemic, and his knowledge has helped dozens—probably hundreds—of people along their path.

Celeste Callender started volunteering with the organization in September 2011 when the organization was called the AIDS Service Center. She graduated from PREP (cycle 35). Having a history of substance use, she began volunteering at and frequenting Alliance LES Harm Reduction Center when it merged with Alliance. She would make and distribute kits and even help out in the kitchen. She took dozens of trainings, where she met LESHRC staff including Floyd, Perla Romero, and others.

"Just talking to Mr. Mitchell I learned so much, his knowledge is so worldly,” said Celeste. “When I shared my experiences, he was like 'oh you used to live here, I know exactly where that is'...I felt so safe opening up to him about all things, he gave me so much advice, he's been where I've been, he's a mentor....he won't say it but he is the man!"

Celeste spoke of both Floyd’s intellectual and emotional intelligence, and how that has helped her grow, and Floyd could only say the same about his mentees.

“[My mentees] inspire me because I get to watch them work through painful moments and yet they get up and go about their day, and sometimes it helps me to get up and do the work,” said Floyd. “There is nothing like helping someone help themself and save someone's life. Sometimes it happens so quickly that you don’t understand or notice that someone was on the brink of expiring, and you had a part in helping them.”

Celeste Callender

Perla Romero, Outreach & Linkage to Care Senior Manager is, among many other things, the hepatitis C group Coordinator in Prevention Services. Over the past four years, she has invited and encouraged Celeste to realize her own power as a leader, co-facilitating the hepatitis C group.

“Alliance LES Harm Reduction Center has always had a homey feel, and in-person groups were important to restore that. Celeste has been a leader in the hepatitis C group that I supervise. She has really grown and taken ownership of the group, and it's been our group with the most consistent participation since we resumed in-person meetings, and that's because of Celeste and our other Peer leaders.

“Celeste’s been an important part of that team that we need to rely on during this time,” she added. “She used to be more hesitant to speak up but now she's blossomed into a leader.”

“I felt like I was one of them, I fit in, and after listening to me sharing my experiences, it clicked, and I felt like I have a lot of information and I'm very resourceful,” said Celeste. 

According to Floyd, Celeste is very cognizant of the fact that substance use counseling and harm reduction counseling are not always the same thing. Not everyone is seeking sobriety, some are just trying to live their life safely. “Celeste makes time to discuss with people about harm reduction and she always is patient and eager to have these conversations.”

"Pre-pandemic, Perla and others saw something in me and asked me to speak on the phone with clients and check in on their physical and mental health needs, they entrusted me with a client list all throughout COVID-19 and helped me write reports. I didn't know the administrative work, but they helped me understand it,” said Celeste.

She used to be shy and reluctant to speak, she is now verbal and chooses to share her knowledge and experiences with others.

“It has been amazing watching Celeste work through painful moments and decide to get up and go about her day,” said Floyd. "I have learned from her to persevere and continue to do the work that you want to do." 

Role Model Stories: Kevin H.

I am a 50-year-old gay male living with HIV for 30 years. I want to share my journey of positive change with you.

I was 16 when I started to have wet dreams about other men. That is how I knew I had feelings for men at that time. Even though I had feelings, I was not sure. I was working as a cashier at a grocery store when a handsome young man approached me. He was looking for something and I helped him. He started a conversation and started asking me personal questions. At first, I was nervous but we exchanged numbers so he called me the next day and we talked about everything except sex.

We decided to hang out. The first time we hung out together we went to the movies and all he talked about was his girlfriend but I knew in my mind he wanted to talk about other things. I asked him what it was about me that he liked and why he wanted to be my friend. He said that I was good looking and it seemed like I had a good heart.

After the date, we did not speak for about two weeks. As time went by, he called and asked me to come hang out at his parents’ house, because we would have some privacy.

I arrived and we smoked weed and drank alcohol. Later on, we started to wrestle. We both started to get aroused. He then proceeded to take my pants off and gave me a blowjob. It felt good but I was nervous. I asked him nicely to stop. I realized the time and told him I had to go home.

About a month or two went by and he started to visit me at my High School. He surprised me with pizza at lunchtime and told me to give him a call because he wanted to hang out again. That made me feel happy, and I was impressed that he wanted to continue to see me. I enjoyed the sexual encounter so I decided to meet him again. This time we went all the way but unfortunately, his mother caught us, and she made me leave.

We did not speak for a very long time. Then we hung out a couple of more times and we then parted ways after I found out he was getting married to a girl.

After that relationship, I started to branch out more and head into New York City because I heard it was gay friendly. I met a person there and he showed me the ropes. We frequented the parks, the peep shows and gay clubs. The unprotected sex I was having I enjoyed. It made me feel free. I enjoyed it so much that I could not get enough of it. I felt I was spiraling out of control but it didn’t faze me because I was having the time of my life.

A couple of weeks later my friend called me up and told me I needed to be screened for STDs. It turned out that I did not have any STDs.

Time went by and I started not to feel so well. I decided to get checked at the hospital. That is when I found out I was HIV positive. I was shocked and I was in denial for a very long time. I started to feel worse and decided to start taking medication to help. It took a couple of years for the medicine to work. I felt like I was going on a downward spiral.

I wanted to grow old. I knew I needed to make some changes right away. After I started to feel better, I moved to New York City and found programs to help people with HIV. I enrolled in some programs and was happy to find out I was not alone. I got help from total strangers that made me want to give back and do the same.

I found Alliance for Positive Change. I enrolled as a program participant and took advantage of the services that they had to offer. It was there I became a Peer intern and was finally able to help others who are HIV positive like myself.

Role Model Stories: Anthony R.

I am a 50-year-old gay man living with HIV for the past 10 years. I want to share my story of positive change with you. I hope this story inspires positive change for individuals like me who suffer or who suffered from sex and drug addiction.

I was in High School exploring my sexuality. I met a guy in one of my classes. We started to spend time together out of school and discovered we had some things in common. One weekend he asked me to spend the night at his house. That evening changed my life forever and I would say made me the person I am today.

That night was the first time I ever locked lips with another man. As we kissed, I could tell that it was the right decision as I felt electricity go through my body. The relationship lasted until college until he went away and we decided to part ways. I was heartbroken. One thing was for sure: the rest of my life I would be in same sex relationships.

While I was in college, I continued to explore my sexuality with other men. I also had a job that allowed me to be more social. At that point, I still kept my secret from my family, as I was not ready to come out to anyone that I did not need to. A couple months into college my family started to question my sexuality. It was then that I decided it was better late than never and disclosed my sexuality.

I felt free but the results of me coming out damaged my relationship with my family. It was then that I ventured out and began living as a gay man in the city. I was not ready for what was in store for me. I started to frequent the piers down by Christopher Street. I heard how it was the birthplace of the gay rights movement. It was there where I felt my true self and unafraid. I met some more men and freely had sex in the open, as it was the gay place to be.

It was also there that I became a substance user. After all, from what I heard, all gay men had anonymous sex, did drugs, and danced until the early morning hours. This all seemed like heaven.

Being free and being me, but at times, I felt untouchable: like no one or any disease would rain on my parade.

In the summer of 2012, I became very ill. Everything started to catch up to me. I lost my job due to performance, my frequent lateness and calling out. I started collecting unemployment and then 2 weeks after that I went to the doctor, where I was given a diagnosis of AIDS.

My world caved in on me. I was heartbroken because I did not know if there was a future for me. I thought to myself, “what choice do I have?” If I die I won’t be able to watch all my nieces and nephews grow up. Even with all the partying, I always made sure that I was a part of their life. We had a special bond.

It was a long and hard recovery for me, but I never gave up. About three years in and out of hospitals, I was finally ready to be part of the real world again. In 2015, I found a community based organization called Alliance for Positive Change. There I learned everything I needed to know to live a long happy life as a gay man living with HIV. I enrolled in the Peer Recovery Education Program, where I was able to train as a Peer intern at the agency. At the end of the 8-week program, I graduated with top honors as a testimonial speaker and spoke about how the program changed my life. It allowed me to begin doing that for others.

My life seemed to get back on track and I continued to grow as a positive role model for other HIV individuals. In the 6 years I was at Alliance, I was on the cover of POZ Magazine sharing my story of the ups and downs of my life. I started to take classes to receive my certification in a new initiative in NYS called ending the epidemic (ETE) by 2020. It helped me share my lived experience living with HIV.

I am proud to say I was part of the first graduating class and became a Certified Peer Worker (CPW). I continued my education by receiving my Certified Peer Recovery Advocate (CPRA) which allows me to work with people that have a substance use disorder. I help them make a plan to reduce risks of hurting themselves or others.

I can say after over six years at Alliance for Positive Change I took all the tools given to me and used them to create a positive change for me and for each person I encounter. I could not be happier for the choice I made to live.

The Power of Peers with SelectHealth

“Our jobs may be different now, but our goal is the same: to help members live healthier and better lives.” Check out this video made in collaboration with SelectHealth for the End the Epidemic Summit 2020, featuring Alliance staff member Peter Soter and Peer Navigator Daniel Edmund. They beautifully illustrate the importance of Peers and outreach, especially during the pandemic.

Alliance on the Move Featured on Spectrum News NY1 and CBS 2 NY During World AIDS Day

Alliance on the Move provides thousands of free and confidential HIV and HCV tests to New Yorkers every year. On World AIDS Day, Spectrum News 1 and CBS 2 NY reported on their outreach and community conversations in Harlem. You can watch the Spectrum News 1 segment here, and the two unique CBS 2 NY segments here and here.

Verywell Health's HIV Series Features the Personal Stories of Four Alliance Team Members

The medically-reviewed Verywell Health team collaborated with Alliance for Positive Change to create “Health Divide: HIV” to share facts, social impact and socio-economic analyses of HIV. The series features intimate profile stories of Eugene Eppes, Ismael Ruiz, Lillian Anglada (for whom our Luis and Lillian Outreach Center is named) and Nicky Bravo. Read their moving stories for a better sense of the people behind the diagnosis. Thank you, Nicky, Lillian, Ismael and Eugene!

Alliance's CEO and Executive Director Sharen Duke Named to PoliticsNY's Power Players in Health Care List

Our Executive Director & CEO Sharen Duke, who has shepherded our work since our founding, was recognized as a Power Player in Health Care by PoliticsNY. This recognition is a reflection not only of her leadership but of the amazing Alliance staff and Peers who have supported literally hundreds of thousands of New Yorkers’ on their path to positive change over the past 30 years.